Because you see what works beautifully with one child, might be a total flop with another! And what truly motivates one child to action can totally shut another down. I could devote several hours to something I might imagine a child would like, but if it misses the mark with their personality, that time can appear a big waste. Knowing the personality information has given me meaningful ways to understand, appreciate each, and actively meet the unique emotional needs of each child.
For most of our children, the personality information gave us just what we needed to navigate their individual needs. However, we also had a child that needed more. And that is how I came into this whole new world of understanding sensory needs and mental health issues. Despite my experience as a licensed professional counselor and personality trainer, I was discovering there was more to him that I just couldn’t understand. Connecting felt nearly impossible. His needs grew, and I felt terribly inadequate as his mom, trying everything we could think of with counselors, doctors, therapists, and medications. Hours and hours of research, method after method, and trying “all the things” left me feeling pretty exhausted and defeated. Thank God, we began to discover some tools and strategies that really made sense.
I had to reshape some of my thoughts, approaches, and feelings. I had to gain a new understanding of how his personality, sensory needs, and mental health issues were impacting his life, and our whole family. As I did this, I was better able to help him, understand him, and connect with him. And our whole family was helped and changed as a result. I long to save families from the exhaustion, frustration, and devastation of navigating life with highly emotional or highly sensitive children without tools and strategies that work. I understand, and I am here to help provide a vital short cut for you!
Having this reshaped, deliberate, and thoughtful approach to parenting and specific issues has helped me have an effective game plan. I can work to connect and relate to each child, according to their individual skills, needs, and characteristics. Putting the personalities and a purposeful approach to parenting together has given me a useful framework to deepen my relationship with each child and genuinely helped us grow as a healthy and joyful family, even as we navigate the challenges we face with a highly emotional, intense child.