Finding Opportunities For Connection In Daily Routines
Every day will carry stresses of its own, so we can’t wait for the “perfect time” to be intentional and purposeful in building connection. And we can’t wait until the schedule is cleared either. Rather, we need to utilize the moments we navigate each and every day. We need to build those opportunities for connection into the daily routines and schedules we have. It’s the art of taking ordinary moments and making them extraordinary!
Considering this it might be that you use that time that you brush their hair to ask, “Is there anything I can help you with today?” You may try asking them, “What’s the best part of your day,” when you are tucking them in. You might consider asking, “Is there anything you want me to pray about today,” as you kiss them goodbye. Whether mealtime, dish time, homework time, or just plain play time…how can you be intentional to actively listen, communicate, engage, interact, and appreciate who your child is becoming?
Encouraging Mutual Interests and Shared Hobbies
There will be things that you and your child will share in common. Build on those things, foster connection through shared interests, and appreciate those things that fascinate and capture your attention together. You might even find that there are hobbies or activities that you can enjoy together. Doing activities or investing in shared interests with a child can build an even deeper connection. Use those things to springboard your conversation, quality time, and 1:1 time together. Let them know that time spent enjoying things together is something you are truly grateful for and anticipate!
Celebrating and Appreciating Individual Strengths and Interests
On the contrary, there will be a variety of things that are quite unique and individual to your child. That is okay, in fact, it is good! It makes them interesting and brings something fresh and new to the relationship. Seek to gain a deep and thorough understanding of your child, his personality, strengths, struggles, emotional needs, love language, sensory sensitivities, mental health needs, preferences, fears, hope, and dreams. Let them know, feel, and see that you value those differences too. There’s importance in them feeling not only your acceptance, but also your support for those differences. Encourage them in becoming the person God created them to be for their unique purpose.